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The goodenoughcaring journal is an online publication which invites anyone wishing to publish papers and articles about  parenting, nurture, child care work and related fields or those wishing to write about their child care experiences to submit as e mail attachments  papers or articles for publication to the editors at goodenoughcaring@icloud.com.

The members of the editorial group are Cynthia Cross, Evelyn Daniel, Siobain Degregorio, Jeremy Millar, Jane Kenny, Ariola Vishnja, Mark Smith, John Stein and Charles Sharpe. The current issue was published online on 18th, June, 2014 and  the next issue will be published on December 15th,  2014. The Journal index can be found at http://www.goodenoughcaring.com/the-journal/

Where does the buck stop with Child Sexual Exploitation?  Setting the record a little “straighter”


What happened to children who were sexually exploited by groups of adults in Rochdale, Rotherham and Oxfordshire is abhorrent to most of us. Those who were working to support children in these places at those times are no doubt filled with sadness and no doubt deep regret that somehow they were not able to make an effective intervention. Still, it is surely right that our primary priorities are to work towards ensuring that events like these cease and to make sure that the evil, cynical perpetrators of these crimes against children are the ones who are brought to justice.

David Cameron’s determination to jail people  – social workers, teachers and others involved with children  –  whom he alleges have ignored child abuse when they were aware of it may appear to be a decisive and populist reaction but it cannot be the solution to a labyrinthine problem. The idea that the threat of a jail sentence will improve the work performance of someone whose job is to engage with and help families and children who are often isolated, anxious, desperate, fearful and overly defensive, is absurd. There should be little doubt that the United Kingdom’s prime minister is sincere in wanting an end to child sexual exploitation though after more considered reflection he may ask himself how far his net will be cast in his search for guilty parties. Indeed he may even ask “Where does the buck stop ?” His adamant statement of intent is one of a leader whose government has cut education, social care and health services to children. This has left fewer people to do more and more work as the consequences of his government’s austerity measures make life for poor and vulnerable people increasingly intolerable. While our political leaders and our media are quick to pronounce upon the failure of public servants they are less meticulous in analysing its causes.

The Serious Case Review into Child Sexual Exploitation carried out at the request the Oxfordshire Safeguarding Children Group by an independent reviewer, Alan Bedford, suggests some social workers, police officers, health workers, teachers and their managers may not have dealt capably with what was happening to these children in Oxfordshire. No doubt some should be held to account for this but also we should remember that they are not the ones who committed unspeakably evil acts upon children. It may be a surprise to some, but the vast majority of people who in one way or another work to support and to educate children want the children to flourish. Those of us who have been involved in work with children at risk will understand how it is possible for mistakes to be made even when our action or our decisions are meant for the best. It would be good if some politicians were to acknowledge that this is also true in their line of work.

What the somewhat squewed media headlines omitted, as the prime minister used the publication of the Serious Case Review as the backdrop to his own child sexual exploitation publicity event – held yesterday (March 3rd, 2015) at 10 Downing Street  –  is that the text of the review contained a number of observations that were not a fit with the sensationalist way this tragic matter was being reported. For instance the review’s author stressed how in the end, workers from a number of disciplines in children’s services ensured that these dreadful matters came to light. Setting the record straight, Alan Bedford concludes :

“Ultimately, it was the efforts of staff on the ground, and their observations and persistence, which was the main driver in the eventual identification of Child Sexual Abuse.”

“The discovery of what later emerged in the Bullfinch inquiry and trial was led not by leaders and strategic bodies but by more junior staff working nearer the coalface. A drugs worker for the City Council, a social worker, and a detective inspector, on their own initiative, and in the absence of any strategic work, each led a number of meetings which were unknown to the OSCB or top managers. Their efforts eventually culminated in a shared recognition that there was group-related exploitation of multiple girls. Action from this point became coordinated and successful.”

The report also comments on the honesty and openness of the workers questioned during the review process and mentions the progress the various agencies involved have made towards making improvements in their practice :

“The vast majority of the information for this SCR has come from the agencies’ own internal reviews, so the accounts of any deficits in performance have come from the agencies themselves voluntarily, and reflect a laudable willingness to be open about the past. They were equally forthcoming when the author made additional inquiries. The learning in Oxfordshire has already been significant, with much good practice now in place, and a professional mind-set now attuned to CSE, with children seen as children, however they behave. There is a growing arsenal of tools to identify, prevent, disrupt and prosecute CSE. Operation Bullfinch and subsequent prosecutions have shown concerted and rigorous action.” *

There are other observations which might be cited from the text but like those above they do not serve a table thumping, simplistic, righteous, scapegoating and narrow point view. It was interesting to note that while this was overwhelmingly the headline story on BBC television morning news yesterday, it was not mentioned at all today.

At the risk of sounding as moralistic as the prime minister, in the longer term we should strive to make sure as much as we can that this exploitation is brought to a halt by creating a society which truly cares about each of its individual members.  We may not always succeed but we should never stop trying. This will be a society which genuinely accepts the responsibilities implicit in that now cheapened phrase “We’re all in it together.”  We should be striving to create a community in which there are no winners or losers, where there are no exploiters of any kind and none who are exploited.


*Excerpts from the Serious Case Review into Child Sexual Exploitation in Oxfordshire: from the experiences of Children A, B, C, D, E, and F. Accessed at http://www.oscb.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/SCR-into-CSE-in-Oxfordshire-FINAL-FOR-WEBSITE.pdf

Research request about ‘negative mothering’

Michelle Linger, the Director of St Michael’s Child and Youth Centre, in Plumstead, Cape Town, South Africa, has sent us the following request.

I was just enquiring if anybody has done any extensive research on the impact of either the complete lack of mothering on young girls or “negative mothering” on young girls. I am the director of a facility for young girls aged 13yrs to 18yrs and before this appointment spent many years in the field of child and youth care and have noticed the impact that mothers have on their daughters.This said I am concerned that we are perhaps not doing enough with regards to this issue to safeguard young girls who grow up in care and are therefore never really mothered correctly and I have come to the conclusion that you cannot mother yourself or anybody else that you might bring into this world if you haven’t been mothered yourself.

Michelle can be contacted at director@stmikesct.org.za

A thought for the end of this year, 2014


“We learn things better through love than through knowledge.”


From Umberto Eco’s 1980 novel  The Name of the Rose,   a  “whodunnit”  full of dramatic action  imbued with philosophical, semiotic and theological discourse set, during the 14th century, within the forbidding cloistered fortress of an Italian monastery.


More about the Issue 16 of the goodenoughcaring Journal now published online

John Stein launches Issue 16  of the goodenoughcaring Journal with his editorial about the significance of relationships for children as they grow up. Supporting John in the ensuing articles, Lorea Boneke, writes about children and young people in care whose important relationships and placements break down.  John Burton provides a cornucopia of rich notes from his work as a consultant to children’s homes, Cynthia Cross helps us explore the rewards of acceptance in a recollection of her relationship with a young man who was in residential care  Evelyn Daniel talks about the failures of relationships at all levels in the care system and considers how this might be put right,  John Diamond presents, in the shadow of recent events in Palestine, the text of a talk he gave in Jerusalem in 2008 about the therapeutic work of the Mulberry Bush School,  Maurice Fenton writes about unity in relationship,  Iain Macleod reflects on his journey through the Scottish care system as he gathered  an identity through relationships with significant others,  Jeremy Millar offers reflections inspired by reading  Borstal Lives, a novel by “Louis Edward,”   Charles Sharpe reviews Social Care Learning from Practice edited by Noel Howard and Denise Lyons,  Mark Smith considers the nature of relationships through the lens of social pedagogy John Stein recalls important relationships in his life other than those with his parents, the late Ian D. Suttie, in an extract from his 1935 book, The Origins of Love and Hate argues that an unnecessary “taboo on tenderness” exists in many human relationships  and.  in a short vignette depicting a scene from a Pupil Referral Unit where she taught,  Christina Williamson raises questions about the relationships between students and teachers and  asks readers to provide the answers.
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Inequality, Poverty, Education A Political Economy of School Exclusion

Palsgrave Macmillan has sent us details of  Inequality, Poverty, Education A Political Economy of School Exclusion  by Francesca Ashurst and Couze Venn which was published earlier this year.




The authors develop a political economy and a genealogy of school exclusion in order to reveal exclusion to be a symptom of more fundamental issues relating to poverty and inequality, reflected in the role of the state in managing their consequences, particularly regarding juvenile delinquency. Using  archival and documentary evidence they uncover the roots of exclusionary practices in political and economic struggles going back to the 19th century. These conflicts, the authors claim, have had decisive effects on key shifts in social and educational policy from the Poor Law Reforms of 1834 to the emergence of the welfare state and the current neoliberal reconstitution of society according to the model of the market. In arguing that competing views of an equitable and just society underlie exclusion, the authors believe their analysis opens up a space for envisaging radical new approaches and practices for dealing with children in trouble.

Francesca Ashurst is an Honorary Research Fellow at Cardiff University, Wales

Couze Venn is Visiting Professor, Goldsmiths, University of London and Associate Research Fellow at the University of Johannesburg, South Africa.

This book will be reviewed in the June  2015 issue of the goodenoughcaring Journal.

December 15th, 2014 and Issue 16 of the goodenoughcaring Journal has touched down

December 15th and Issue 16 of the  goodenoughcaring Journal is online,  The principal theme of the new issue is the significance relationships have for children as they grow up.




John Stein has composed the Editorial for this issue. The authors providing us with knowledge, experiences and insights in  Issue 16 are Lorea Boneke,  John Burton, Cynthia Cross,  Evelyn Daniel, John Diamond, Maurice Fenton, Iain Macleod, Jeremy Millar, Charles Sharpe,  Mark Smith, John Stein with an additional article,  Ian D. Suttie, and Christina Williamson.

New title : Leading Good Care: the task, heart and art of managing social care by John Burton

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Jessica Kingsley Publishers have given us prior notice of John Burton’s forthcoming book Leading Good Care: the task, heart and art of managing social care due to be published on February 15th, 2015. John is a regular contributor of articles to the goodenoughcaring  Journal. This book will be reviewed in the June 2015 issue of the goodenoughcaring Journal.


Comments from readers who have previewed the book include :

‘This book wants reading for several reasons. It is a book from the heart and highly readable. It identifies straightforwardly, matter-of-factly and scathingly the mindless, blinkered and harmful bureaucracy which has infected and distorted the social and health care system. Yet, in the face of these identified evils, it cleaves to optimism and independence of thought throughout and a determination that things can, and must, change. It discusses systems and ideas, but is written by an author with a detailed practical knowledge of care and who uses, throughout the book, care settings to illustrate in depth the issues as played out in the real world. Above all, this book challenges managers to break out of the vicious circle within which they can all too easily become enmired and ultimately, to lead good care.’

Michael Mandelstam, author of How We Treat the Sick: Neglect and Abuse in our Health Services


‘If you want to step up to leadership, and to lead good care, this book will help you do just that. It’s borne of long experience and a passionate belief in the difference good leadership can make. So if you want to transform people’s lives, start here.

From the foreword by Debbie Sorkin, National Director of Systems Leadership, the Leadership Centre


‘Leaving bureaucracy and compliance in its wake, John Burton takes the book’s reader on a journey to leadership both as a role and as an aspiration… With sobering references to the health and social care scandals of Cornwall, Staffordshire and Winterbourne View, and more recently the Savile debacle, John exposes the myth that managers were principally to blame by showing how there are wider systemic failings that leave most managers believing that they are powerless to take a stand and simply doing as they are told… With compassion entering the social care vocabulary again, John’s book is a timely inspiration for managers to return to humanity and core tasks with confidence and to lead their services to real and meaningful excellence.’

Philip Nightingale, Registered Social Care Manager


For more details about the John Burton’s new book go to http://www.jkp.com/uk/leading-good-care.html


Issue 16 of the goodenoughcaring Journal is on its way !


On December 15th, 2014,  issue 16 of the goodenoughcaring Journal will be published online. This issue has a  broad principal theme : ‘significant relationships” John Stein provides our editorial and there are articles from Lorea Boneke, Cynthia Cross, Evelyn Daniel, John Diamond, Iain Macleod, Jeremy Millar, Mark Smith, Christine Williamson, Charles Sharpe and John Stein has written a further article for this issue. More articles are in the pipeline. News of these will appear here at http://www.goodenoughcaring.com in the coming days.

Further submissions of articles are welcome until December 1st.  Submit an article as an attachment  to http://www.goodenoughcaring.com


An Enlightened Nation? Scottish Perspectives on Social Welfare

A conference examining social welfare in Scotland following this year’s referendum on Scottish independence is to be held on November 28th, 2014 at Edinburgh University, South Hall, Pollock Halls.

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2014 has been a momentous year for Scotland. The Independence Referendum result was to remain within the United Kingdom, although the political fallout from that decision continues.

A striking feature of the Referendum was the extent to which debate converged around questions of social welfare and social justice.

This conference, hosted by the University of Edinburgh, and supported by the journal Ethics and Social Welfare, Social Work Scotland and the Scottish Social Services Council provides an opportunity to explore Scottish social welfare policies and the values underpinning these.

This conference will address key ideas around what, if anything might be distinctive about a Scottish tradition of social welfare, both historically, but also tracing historical antecedents to the present day.

Presenters include:

Prof Stephen Webb, Glasgow Caledonian University
Prof David McKendrick, Glasgow Caledonian University
Prof James Mitchell, University of Edinburgh
Prof Jonathan Hearn, University of Edinburgh
Robin McAlpine, The Common Weal
Jean Freemen, Founder of Women for Independence

Scroll down this page to find the response to the Scottish Institute of Residential Child Care’s debate about child care in a post referendum Scotland and United Kingdom

Separation and Reunion Forum 15th Annual Conference, London Abuse of Children: Attachment Issues

The 15th Annual Separation and Reunion will be held on Friday 28th of November 2014 at London Voluntary Resource Centre 356 Holloway Road, London N7 6PA. The theme of the conference is Abused Children : Attachment Issues.

The conference is being held from 9:00 am to 4:30 pm

The conference will be chaired by Dr. Nelda Frater, Medical Director Frater Clinic Patron of SRF

Key Note Speakers are:

Dr Danya Glaser, Honorary Consultant Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist, Visiting Professor UCL; ‘The Abuse of Children’.
Ms. Annetta Bennett, National Consultant Trainer and Facilitator, ‘Female Genital Mutilation’.
Mr. Thurstine Bassett, Director of Bassett Consultancy, ‘Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege’.
Ms. Heather Rovce, Educational Psychotherapist. ‘Caring for Looked After Children’.

Conference Fees:

Delegates: £65.00

SRF Members: £50.00

Concessions: £35.00 (Students, Retired Persons and Unemployed)

For mode information about of venue contact London Voluntary Resource Centre

Please confirm attendance by return e-mail ASAP. Should you require further information on this event, please email the SRF’s admin team at serefo or ring 0207 8010 135 or Mob: 0778 370 5423. The organisers ask that those wishing to attend confirm attendance by email as soon as possible.